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A Few Things I've Picked up in MY Day!
To go along with each phase are some key points ... There are 3 Key points then there's 1 Major piece of advice I wanna leave you with ...
1) Initial - This is the 1st Meet and Greet this stage usually has high implications b/c most people foolishly make up there minds about a person entirely after their first encounter but try your best to have a good first impression.
The key to mastering this phase is leaving a lasting impression is REMEMBER the LITTLE THINGS! For Instance a Middle Name, Hometown, or Hobby, Birthday ... If there aren't any Little Things generated from the conversation create them yourself. For Ex: What's your favorite color, favorite food, favorite sport, etc. This will make you "seem" personable and score you bonus points if you actually remember these things and bring them out at the appropriate times.
To Counter REMEMBERING the LITTLE THINGS you have to REMEMBER the BIG THINGS ... lol Like Names, Other Major Info (Academic Major, Age, Year in School) ...
If you can do these two things you will successfully navigate phase 1) ...
2) Developmental - This is when you begin to feel a person out and see what there really about, so if you make it here you've either accepted the person as a friend or they somehow keep showing up in random places or have clung to someone else in your circle of friends.
One way to master the Developmental Phase is to be Respectful. This is easier said than done, but in order to be respectful you should give people there space, next you should have good body language and eye contact when your talking to someone or in there presence. Lastly, you should speak at a decent volume because if you talk too loud or too low you'll seem disrespectful uninterested or displeased to be in their presence so it's best to have a good volume.
The best key to being respectful is to LISTEN. Too OFTEN people don't listen and this is an easy way to ruin a relationship. Also a very important feature to any relationship is being able to hold a conversation with someone. If you have a tough time listening the developmental phase will be virtually impossible, so I highly encourage you be a good listener and your relationships/ friendships will develop smoothly.
3) Progressive - In this face you determine how serious you wanna make things. Either you want to be good friends, you want to "use" this person for lack of a better word or you want to rid of them altogether. If you make it to this phase then I'd say your doing pretty good and that person will likely be a good friend, but its your decision to make.
The Final Phase requires you to take some responsibility for your actions. in order to have a successful Progressive Phase you need to be accountable. This is simple, don't make promises you can't keep, be honest, respond to text and calls, and finally be honest with your friends. If you've successfully managed to work through the previous steps they won't take it too personally if you tel them bad news or are unable to do something as long as your straight forward with them. As a friend you should want people to be able to count on you and vice-versa it's at the root of all successful relationships and will help determine whether this person is worthy or a long-term commitment.
You and your friend should have more in common then both thinking Brad Pitt or Beyonce Knowles are HOT! That won't take you friendship very far it should be about MORE! If you have similar Goals, Motives, or Purposes for your LIFE then there's a good chance that you'll both be happy and growing simultaneously to your friendship. Otherwise when you surround yourself with "negative people" you don't tend to see results or and you lose site of your priorities as you'll notice most people look to there friends for support so if you don't choose them wisely, your setting yourself up for FAILURE!
There are Three Phases to a RELATIONSHIP/ FRIENDSHIP! Enjoy ...
To go along with each phase are some key points ... There are 3 Key points then there's 1 Major piece of advice I wanna leave you with ...
The key to mastering this phase is leaving a lasting impression is REMEMBER the LITTLE THINGS! For Instance a Middle Name, Hometown, or Hobby, Birthday ... If there aren't any Little Things generated from the conversation create them yourself. For Ex: What's your favorite color, favorite food, favorite sport, etc. This will make you "seem" personable and score you bonus points if you actually remember these things and bring them out at the appropriate times.
To Counter REMEMBERING the LITTLE THINGS you have to REMEMBER the BIG THINGS ... lol Like Names, Other Major Info (Academic Major, Age, Year in School) ...
If you can do these two things you will successfully navigate phase 1) ...
2) Developmental - This is when you begin to feel a person out and see what there really about, so if you make it here you've either accepted the person as a friend or they somehow keep showing up in random places or have clung to someone else in your circle of friends.
One way to master the Developmental Phase is to be Respectful. This is easier said than done, but in order to be respectful you should give people there space, next you should have good body language and eye contact when your talking to someone or in there presence. Lastly, you should speak at a decent volume because if you talk too loud or too low you'll seem disrespectful uninterested or displeased to be in their presence so it's best to have a good volume.
The best key to being respectful is to LISTEN. Too OFTEN people don't listen and this is an easy way to ruin a relationship. Also a very important feature to any relationship is being able to hold a conversation with someone. If you have a tough time listening the developmental phase will be virtually impossible, so I highly encourage you be a good listener and your relationships/ friendships will develop smoothly.
3) Progressive - In this face you determine how serious you wanna make things. Either you want to be good friends, you want to "use" this person for lack of a better word or you want to rid of them altogether. If you make it to this phase then I'd say your doing pretty good and that person will likely be a good friend, but its your decision to make.
The Final Phase requires you to take some responsibility for your actions. in order to have a successful Progressive Phase you need to be accountable. This is simple, don't make promises you can't keep, be honest, respond to text and calls, and finally be honest with your friends. If you've successfully managed to work through the previous steps they won't take it too personally if you tel them bad news or are unable to do something as long as your straight forward with them. As a friend you should want people to be able to count on you and vice-versa it's at the root of all successful relationships and will help determine whether this person is worthy or a long-term commitment.
You and your friend should have more in common then both thinking Brad Pitt or Beyonce Knowles are HOT! That won't take you friendship very far it should be about MORE! If you have similar Goals, Motives, or Purposes for your LIFE then there's a good chance that you'll both be happy and growing simultaneously to your friendship. Otherwise when you surround yourself with "negative people" you don't tend to see results or and you lose site of your priorities as you'll notice most people look to there friends for support so if you don't choose them wisely, your setting yourself up for FAILURE!
Being a GREAT Friend isn't EASY ... Nor is it Always PRETTY, but if you take what I said above into account no matter how rough things get for you and your friends if you have a bigger purpose of a FRIENDSHIP than BEYONCE you will be just FINE!
Unless someone is your BEST FRIEND your going to have problems! It's the way of the WORLD!
Later People ...
Season Opener vs. Bucknell in the Morning :-)
Battle of the Nell's
Cornell vs. Bucknell at 12:30 Saturday September 19th @ CORNELL
!It's TIME!
Shad Shaddy # 2 is OUT!
Later People ...
Season Opener vs. Bucknell in the Morning :-)
Battle of the Nell's
Cornell vs. Bucknell at 12:30 Saturday September 19th @ CORNELL
!It's TIME!
Shad Shaddy # 2 is OUT!
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